I have always been strong, confident, almost on the edge of cocky. I have alway been completely sure of myself and since my Dave died I am completely lost sometimes. I have never had this experience before and I have a hard time dealing with it. Even when I was divorced, after 25 years of marriage, I didn't go to pieces. I just did what I had to do and get along okay. But maybe that was because I had two kids that depended on me still. Now it is pretty much me and my companion animals. My kids are grown, married with lives of their own. Dave was my best friend, as well as partner in all things and that has been a blow, too. I try to explain that to people sometimes....losing your husband, your lover, your champion and your best friend all in one fell swoop is very, very hard.